Soft Targets

Woman alone with kids are a soft target for a married man with kids on the hunt.

The most interesting and responsible men are married. I repeat: are and will be married. They are in balance, take their responsibility and put most energy in their  kids and wife. A life that is for the biggest part hidden for the world outside the family. A category that doesn’t  flirt seriously and is out of the market in the game of love.

Hunting married men that lie and tell that they are divorced are double cheating. Firstly, he is cheating the woman of his kids, his wife. Secondly, he is cheating on his target. For me it is a #metoo-category. Don’t do that out of honor and of being courteous. Don’t do that to a woman alone with kids. It’s not fair in the game of love.  They know what a woman wants and needs. They abuse their target's vulnerability.

Why is it not fair? The hunter knows that he can never fulfil his target's deepest wish: a family with man, wife and kids that live their family-life. Normal. Nothing fancy. With a man that is a male role model for her kids.

He can give her love, attention and sex. He can talk deep with her. Eat with her kids and her as a family. Have short holidays together as a family.  But he can't give it to her on a daily basis. And one day he will have to tell his target that he is married with kids and that he can't give her what she and her kids really want. Will the relation last between the unmasked-hunter and target? If it will she will forever have to deal with the leftovers of his time and energy. And next to that - more importantly - she always has to be perfect in bed and on the sofa. Not  too demanding and whining. Not be a bore. If she will, she will remind him too much of his own wife and he will move on. Looking for new horizons. Looking for fresh meat. Live his adult life locked up in a (temporary?) Don Juan phase of love.

You can’t protect yourself for men that hunt. For those that are too selfish. If you find out: skip them. Don’t waist your energy on them. You are what they want: fresh meat. But they are not what you want on a daily basis: a male role model for your kids and man that protects and cares for you.

P.S. The story above is also valid for a married woman with kids on the hunt. For Doña Juanita.

P.P.S. I wrote about Don Juan before in 'Don Juan was a Great Seducer but a Bad Dad' (2010): here.

Don Juan was a great seducer but a bad dad

Don Juan is a tragical figure. Better: I think that Don Juan is a tragical figure. Why? Not because he's able to seduce woman, a lot of woman. Not because I do not understand his drive, his longing, his kick, his long trail of seduced woman.

He is tragical because he entangles means and end. Seducing a woman - from a male point of view - is the means to the end 'get procreated'. It's just as simple as that. Getting procreated as species 'homo sapiens' is more than make love and make babies with the two of us. The kids also need their parents for love and all the other small, normal and ordinairy things we need for facing life. In other words: life is more than getting laid. The tragedy of Don Juan is that he doesn't act that way. In a way Don Juan is a spoiled kid: always getting what he wants. And in the real world? In the real world kids grow up and  learn that we can't always get what we want. In the real world we learn that we don't need to consume always what we can get. It seems to me that Don Juan never learned that. Don Juan' tragedy is that  he was a great seducer but he was a bad dad.

Is it really that hard not to take every step of 'Terentius' steps of Venus':  (1) see (2) talk (3) touch (4) kiss and (5) make love? Why can't you stop stepping?