Soft Targets

Woman alone with kids are a soft target for a married man with kids on the hunt.

The most interesting and responsible men are married. I repeat: are and will be married. They are in balance, take their responsibility and put most energy in their  kids and wife. A life that is for the biggest part hidden for the world outside the family. A category that doesn’t  flirt seriously and is out of the market in the game of love.

Hunting married men that lie and tell that they are divorced are double cheating. Firstly, he is cheating the woman of his kids, his wife. Secondly, he is cheating on his target. For me it is a #metoo-category. Don’t do that out of honor and of being courteous. Don’t do that to a woman alone with kids. It’s not fair in the game of love.  They know what a woman wants and needs. They abuse their target's vulnerability.

Why is it not fair? The hunter knows that he can never fulfil his target's deepest wish: a family with man, wife and kids that live their family-life. Normal. Nothing fancy. With a man that is a male role model for her kids.

He can give her love, attention and sex. He can talk deep with her. Eat with her kids and her as a family. Have short holidays together as a family.  But he can't give it to her on a daily basis. And one day he will have to tell his target that he is married with kids and that he can't give her what she and her kids really want. Will the relation last between the unmasked-hunter and target? If it will she will forever have to deal with the leftovers of his time and energy. And next to that - more importantly - she always has to be perfect in bed and on the sofa. Not  too demanding and whining. Not be a bore. If she will, she will remind him too much of his own wife and he will move on. Looking for new horizons. Looking for fresh meat. Live his adult life locked up in a (temporary?) Don Juan phase of love.

You can’t protect yourself for men that hunt. For those that are too selfish. If you find out: skip them. Don’t waist your energy on them. You are what they want: fresh meat. But they are not what you want on a daily basis: a male role model for your kids and man that protects and cares for you.

P.S. The story above is also valid for a married woman with kids on the hunt. For Doña Juanita.

P.P.S. I wrote about Don Juan before in 'Don Juan was a Great Seducer but a Bad Dad' (2010): here.